Exxy… OUT!


Well, it’s a daybreak here, and I have finally made the decision.

In a few minutes, I will /gquit.

Any of you who read this blog know how extremely proud I am of my guild.  I love it when the guild succeeds.  It sucks when the guild fails, but now it’s just time for me to move on.

I’ve been thinking about it for months now.  Guild Drama.  It never amounts to anything good.  Call me a Drama Mama if you would like, but really, I just wanted to play the game, beat the bosses and get phat lootz. 

Let’s play “I never.”

  • I never wanted to have to take over the ten-man slotting but I did.  Had I not certain folks might make Group A a gazillion times better than Group B dooming group B to repeated failure.  It was always my goal to balance them out. 
  • I never threatened to leave the guild because my husband wasn’t in a raid nor would I ever. 
  • I have never been p-whipped by cyber-p.  I hear it’s pretty powerful for some reason.
  •  I never tried to make up a written loot policy for alts just because DanityKane hit 80.  It’s a very selfish way to run a guild.
  • I never tried to re-write said policy because my alt lost an off-spec roll to a main.  Shame. LOL
  • I never cut a deal as an officer with the officers to buy orbs at half price for an alt.  Oh, wait, I take that back.  I did try to broker the same deal with the GM only to be told I was low-balling the guild.  Yeah, I guess the same rule will apply to the primordial saronite, too, huh?  More shame.

Did I roll on BiS gear for me?  Hell yeah!  You’re damn right I did! Some of the things on my “wish list” aren’t even BiS due to the stats I like my character to have.  I prefer a number of haste items to crit.  Did I get to vote for myself on the Loot Council?  Nope.  Did my husband get to vote for me on the Loot Council?  Nope. 

  • We were never allowed to vote for one another, but the other officers did.  So please, place the blame on more than just me or him when it comes to my gear being nice.  Maybe ask why you were consistently passed over on gear if you really want to know why such decisions were made- that is IF you really think the LC has passed you over.  You most likely will not get a straight answer.  FYI, my gear is ranked 16th in the guild now for all who wonder… EDITED TO MENTION the fact that 10 of the 15 items I now wear were either crafted by me, earned by me through Ashen Verdict rep or bought by me with badges.  It would be 11/15, but I like the haste on my bracers more than the Moonshroud bracers (also made by me).  You can’t really depend on the guild to get you everything you want or need.  A weapon?  Yes.  A trinket?  Yes.  But there are a lot of things you can get on your own- which some “guildies” just can’t grasp for some reason.
  • Oh, yeah.  I never liked going to old raiding zones like AQ 40 or even OS once ToC and ICC came out.  Why?  Because I came to WKN for progression.  I went to OS a few times to help people get trinkets, but for folks to complain about me not doing other things outside progression and my dailies is just dumb.  Get a life.  You like achieves, and I don’t really care.  Grow up.

I have been the only female officer in this guild as long as I can remember.  In this all boys club, I have had other officers discount what I and other female members say or think as irrational.  Like it or not, women can see the drama coming from a mile away.  Hell, a lot of the times, women are the cause of a guild’s downfall.  Sometimes- women like me- try to stop the drama only to be “put in our place.”  I bit my tongue on so much for a long time.  Last night, I decided not to anymore, and it was about something even our male counterparts complained about:  a key person once again showing favortism to someone else- trying to get an invite for them by giving us what amounts to an ultimatum.  Second time in about three months that has happened.  The last time it happened 24 people waited for 30 minutes while one person held us all hostage because someone was not invited.  All of us, just waiting in ICC but not able to move because this one person was threatening to leave the server.  It is bullshit, and until I raised hell last night, nothing was ever going to be done about it.

I’m sick of it.  Maybe this is just how guilds go.  I don’t know.  I have been in three my entire WoW lifetime.  I left the first one because the GM was 12.  LOL.  I left the next one- which I loved- because after Wrath came out, it just kind of stalled and I wanted to progress.  Now I am in a progression guild, and while I love the progression part, I can’t take the drama.

I would love to keep raiding, and maybe I will get back to it one day soon.  Right now, I just need a break.  So this is Exxy signing off as a semi-hardcore raider.  I am trying to decide if I will keep doing my dailies while I figure out what to do.  I am sure hubby will love to use my toons for something if for nothing else than the flask master and gem transmutes on Danity.  I may be hitting the pug circuit… ooooh, patience is a virtue.  LOL

So, Soliss, Seca, Lito I will miss talking to you in The Healer’s Sanctum.  It’s been so much fun raiding with you guys.  Shawn, I have missed your guidance since the day you left us.  You were the Drama Master, and believe me, we needed you back.  And good luck to WKN.  For those who say, “OMG.. Good Riddance, Exxy!” I give you a hardy “OMG.. FU!” LOL.  You are probably one of the people mentioned in this post. 🙂

Oh, well.  Maybe I will find a new game to tickle my fancy.  I have been wanting “my life” back for a while now.  This is just the first step.  Wish me luck!

Happy Raiding!

Exxy

7 responses to this post.

  1. I logged on this evening and checked the roster in hopes a huge e-gina would have quit, to see you leave is a shocker.

    I feel lost now that the female hold in the officer’s sanctum is gone. We have no voice in this boys club we are graded and loved and defended by who we are with. It’s pathetic and I will miss you every raid for however long I decide to stay here.

    She is a slut using her situation and her connections to run this guild, hold us hostage for hours and crying like a little baby to her e-beau when shit dosent go her way.

    You helped us healers so much, made me feel better when I thought I was horrible and lifted everyone’s spirits to the moon and beyond with the hard work and dedication you put into this. I salute you Exanna the Great.

    May your heals be bright and your bubbles be strong.

    /salute

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  2. Posted by Soliss on February 21, 2010 at 6:14 pm

    Omg. I logged into my bank alt…still hung over from my party last night btw and Seca filled me in. Gah. I had a feeling this shit would come down. Keep in touch woman. Lemme give you my email.

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  3. Posted by exanna on February 21, 2010 at 6:46 pm

    It is not the first time a e-booty has turned a guild upside down. I know of at least three instances where it has torn guilds apart. Maybe your GM will finally get this situation under control. My gift to you… LOL. Seriously, though? I will miss you 2. As for me, I will enjoy the downtime. Have fun and good luck in your raids!

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  4. Posted by Doug on February 22, 2010 at 7:54 am

    Sorry to hear you had to leave your guild 😦

    Hopefully you are able to find a new home, and continue to blog because I enjoy reading.

    Many guilds in wow right now are stalled, because the skill required to down the end of wing bosses ramps up quite a bit from the others, so progression stops and the “good” raiders typically debate moving to more progression oriented guilds (or get burned out) and some people cause drama (out of boredom?). The end result is alot of guilds falling apart and others trying to rebuild.

    My guild recently lost a raid leader and a few very good players (although one did cause alot of drama) so we are rebuilding and just trying to get enough people in to fill raids.

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    • Posted by exanna on February 22, 2010 at 2:56 pm

      Thanks for the well wishes and sorry to hear about your guild’s woes. It happens, but life goes on right? I enjoy writing and plan to keep writing. Trying to schedule my next podcast as I type! Hope all is well. Your tips on these bosses have always been spot on!

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  5. Hello,

    I found this little gem of a website while at work, and I absolutely love your blogs and everything else (the Exanna boss fight is hilarious)

    In any case, sorry to see you get burnt out with guild drama. Hopefully things become okay with you.

    I do hope you are able to continue with the website, as it will be sad to see you go.

    Just writing this comment to know you have many fans of your work here.

    cheers and best of luck,

    Lii – Moon Guard

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    • Posted by exanna on February 23, 2010 at 3:18 pm

      Wow, that means a lot to me. I am taking a well deserved break, and I am enjoying it actually. I will be doing a podcast this week so look for it soon. 🙂

      Reply

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